The deeper I get into trying to succeed in my multitude of never ending side projects, my relationship, my friendships and, really, life in general, the more I find a solid line between the two different types of women out there. Just like when we were younger, there are the ones who shove you on the playground, because you have the toy they don't, and there are the ones who get excited for you and want to play alongside of you. The difference between the two is simple; one is envious and one is blatantly jealous, the latter being the true evil of the two.
Being human, I think it's normal for us to feel certain levels of envy towards others who are achieving things we've yet to reach and there's nothing wrong with those feelings as long as you keep them in check and hold them at a healthy level. That level, however, is one in the same with that solid line I mentioned above. When that line is crossed things become destructive and hurtful, words become nasty and spiteful, friendships become fake and misleading. We become that person we know damn right well we are better than.
Admittedly, there are a number of ladies I've come across that I'm envious of. Whether it be a product they've created, a brand they've built, a blog they've grown, a shop they've opened, or whatever else. I've sat behind my computer screen, hand on my head, thinking "damn, that's a great idea. Why didn't I think of that?!". I've even scrolled past these things and questioned my own future, my own relationship, my own side projects, but never once wishing failure upon whatever, or whoever, it is I'm looking at. I envy the success of so many strong and powerful women I've come across in the blogging community, and that's the honest truth. I mean, come on, there is so. much. talent. throughout this community. There is a lot to be envious of.
It's ok to be envious of the fitness blogger who has lost over 100 pounds, just as it's ok to be envious of the DIY blogger who ended up with a crazy successful Etsy shop. We don't have to hate one another because someone has found success in an area you've yet to conquer. Hell, if it was easy we'd all be doing it and there'd be nothing special about any of us but, the thing is, we are all doing something different and unique. We all want to achieve different goals and cross different boundaries, whether it be to have the best damn blog for your family across the country to keep up with, or Buzzfeed's next hired writer. And it doesn't matter how small or tall your desired victories are because we are all reaching for something, we are all trying to climb to that next step.
We all have to be bigger than that jealous kid who pushes people, for you have no idea how hard that person you're pushing has worked to get that toy.
All Things Pretty went completely above and beyond and created a custom, one of a kind, gold foil print with this month's shirt design on it. To say I'm blown away with how amazing it turned out would be a vast understatement, so much so that I had her create two of them so I could hang one in my apartment. So, I guess, technically it's a two of a kind print. I hope that's still ok.
One IWYP Unicorn shirt and one gold unicorn foil print is up for grabs, winner takes all. I'm including a Rafflecopter to keep things organized. Don't judge me. You guys know the rest of the drill.
a Rafflecopter giveaway