Thursday, August 28, 2014

The Fairytale


By definition, a "fairytale" is a children's story about magical and imaginary beings and lands. No offense to Webster, but I think a fairytale is a lot more than just a children's story, mostly because I've spent the majority of my life searching for my own fairytale. A real life fairytale, nothing imaginary, no mice to help with chores, godmothers without wings, and a Prince who wasn't initially an amphibian. Easy enough, no? No.

This mindset has caused me to fail in quite a few relationships, those close to me are most likely nodding their heads in agreement right now. I've been criticized more times than I can remember for my fairytale mindset by nearly every man I've dated because they've always told me that my expectations are unmeetable and that relationships aren't always going to be rainbows and butterflies. I guess they're right about that last part, I'll give them that I suppose. However, I have reason to believe that when it's right and when it's real, those expectations become easy to meet because the right one has the same expectations.

And that's where the fairytale begins.

My fairytale began a little over a year ago when the guy of my dreams finally called me his girlfriend.  And I guess I'll give some credit to the others and admit that it hasn't been all rainbows and butterflies, there's been a couple storms, a strike or two of lightening, but you know what comes after a storm? A rainbow. Maybe that's what Webster up there was referring to because even the children's stories have storms. A fairytale doesn't have to be perfect, it just has to have the key components of effort, happiness, understanding, commitment, and most of all love.

Never in my life could I have envisioned my 27 year old self in the place I am right now. I always thought my fairytale would be more along the lines of: I'd be working my way up the corporate ladder at some fancy PR company, married, white picket fence in my Orlando suburb, fancy car, and a big closet my friends and I could sip champagne in like they do on Real Housewives. Spoiler alert: I literally don't have one of the previously mentioned things. Not one. That whole story is pretty much the polar opposite of where I'm at right now and I couldn't be happier my tale didn't turn out that way.

Ok, maybe not the polar opposite. I'm not on the streets and I've got some sort of a conventional 9-5 job... well, I do for another 3-4 weeks. Small details.


Sometimes you have to pick up a new book and start writing a completely different story because there's a reason the other books never had a fairytale ending. That's what I recently made the decision to do and I can't wait to see it flourish into a bigger, better fairytale. The one I've dreamed of for as long as I can remember.

We spend our whole lives trying to conform to that story in our head, when the real fairytale is right in front of us waiting to be written on fresh, new pages.

For me, right now, my story and my fairytale is taking me to Denver, Colorado and my prince charming.

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100 comments:

  1. Hmm, I think a lot of women have unrealistic expectations for their relationships, but I think there's also said about having decent standards! Like, a guy texting or calling you back within a reasonable amount of time. Or asking questions about how your day was and what your life has been like and how you feel about this, this, and this. My best friend didn't have a serious relationship until she was about 25 years old (she's gay, which makes it harder, but still). I started getting a bit worried about her and how she was over thinking things and having unreasonable expectations. But you know what! She found an awesome girl who was perfect and everything worked out just fine. It's all about balance, I suppose, and being true to yourself.

    Cat
    http://oddlylovely.com

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  2. I mean.... I wouldn't totally mind the mice doing chores part. So excited for you! And right before winter! BRRRR.

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  3. Follow your heart, Whitney, wherever it takes you. Oh and if you ever find out where you get mice to help with the chores, hit me up :) x

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  4. Ahhh, this is brilliant and SO exciting! This is a really lovely and well-written post. Sometimes life doesn't always go the way you planned it to. I left my job and the sunshine to move to FINLAND with my boyfriend. Now that's either true love or just really, really stupid! Haha.. It's worked out pretty good so far! It sounds like it's going to be a whole new chapter for you and I really wish you all the luck in the world!! xxx

    Kirsty - Effortlessly Excessive.

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  5. I could not be more happier for you girl!! Go get your man!

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  6. So happy for you! It's hard to make this kind of decision, and I'm so glad you're following your heart. Can't wait to see where it takes you!

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  7. Ahhhh I am so super excited for you!!!!!

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  8. Love this! Exciting new adventures are ahead for you!!

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  9. Congrats, Whitney! You're right that every fairytale has a few bumps, but I'm glad yours is working towards a "happy ending"!

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  10. Love this post. Fairy tales really do exist, don't ever let anyone tell you otherwise. I'm happy to hear that your are following your heart to Colorado. I'm so excited for you and for this beautiful new adventure!

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  11. I'm so excited for you! Follow your heart and your dreams. Colorado is beautiful! Pack warm! :)

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  12. Beautiful! I had chills reading this, so happy for you!

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  13. How exciting! About six years ago, I had a guy move to Denver, and I couldn't let myself make the leap and go with him (which is what he wanted me to do.) I love my life now, but I'll never be able to answer that "What if I'd gone?" that lives in my head. Kudos to you for following your heart.

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  14. Starting a new chapter in your fairytale is exciting! So happy for you!

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  15. yaaaaaaayyy!!!! I was hoping that would be the next chapter!

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  16. So excited and happy for you! You deserve nothing but the best. I also gotta say that I feel like you have matured so much (but what do I know? I am pretty immature haha). Learning that relationships aren't always picture perfect and letting go of unrealistic expectations was one of the biggest lessons I've learned- and I learned it after I got married. So I say that you're doing pretty darn good.

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  17. Congratulations on the new chapter! It takes a lot of guts to make a change but it can be so rewarding! No matter where you go and what you do, you'll be great!!

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  18. Now you get to start shopping for winter clothes :) So happy for you and excited that you are chasing something you love and want.

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  19. Congratulations pretty girl!!! After reading yesterdays post, I kinda thought this might be where that was leading to!! Go get that man and live your "happily ever after"!!! After all, everyone's fairy tale is different and what you make it!

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  20. This story of yours makes my heart smile!

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  21. I am honestly so happy for you. I have chills and a huge smile on my face! Good for you, Whitney, for creating your own fairytale!!!

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  22. congrats! I admire you for taking a leap.. scratch that.. giant jump of faith! Enjoy Denver!

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  23. yay yay yay yay!!! So happy and excited for you!!

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  24. Congrats!!! Enjoy this new chapter in your fairytale :)

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  25. I am so happy for you!! I wondered after yesterday's post if that's where this new adventure was taking you and I couldn't be happier for you. I literally had butterflies in my stomach just reading this post for you! And I too believe that when it's right, it's your own fairytale!

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  26. Totally saw this coming back when you said Bear was moving :) Seemed like just what you needed to get out of that rut we have been hearing about! So so so happy for you and your new adventure!!

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  27. Very happy for you, such a big change but one that will bring so many good things to you.

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  28. Being a mountain woman sounds way more fun than a picket fence anyway. Although, the closet and champagne has me all kinds of giddy for 6518796123 reasons. Congratulations girl, this will be fruitful, I'm sure of it. (And it's mighty close to CA...) :)

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  29. Yayayayayayayayayayayay! While I was waiting for this to load, I was scrolling through instagram and saw your post and I was like AHHHH. So happy for you and Bear. I love how real y'all's story is. You have had ups, and you even worked through your downs, and now you basically are going to live happily ever after. In cold Denver. :D

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  30. congrats on this move!
    My "fairytale" was supposed to be meet the man I would marry at 28, have a two-year courtship, get married at 30, have an awesome settled career, and have kids around 32. In real life, I got married at 25 after three months of dating and now that I'm 30, we're thinking about having kids. We both finally feel settled in our careers too. I am a firm believer that life gives you what you need at the right time.

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  31. and this my friend, is called LIVING life. a lot of people might judge this choice but those people most likely have never and will never take a big scary chance on anything. they ain't living'! fucking YOLO.

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  32. Awwww I was thinking that is where you were headed! How exciting! You will never regret taking the leap of faith, no matter what. And conventional is not all it's cracked up to be, I know. Never again lol

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  33. I SO get the "fairy tale" myth... the more people I meet & the older I get, I realize it doesn't necessarily mean what I thought, that being said... it can still kick ass and be all you ever wanted! best wishes on your next venture!!

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  34. Taking chances and doing scary things is what life is all about - good for you! Kelly took the words straight from my mouth. Fucking YOLO.

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  35. This post was so wonderful. You are so right, sometimes you have to get out of your head, let go of the fairytale you envisioned and look right in front of you. Your fairytale and where you're at in your life might not be what you dreamed, but it's YOUR fairytale and YOUR life. I cannot wait to read along as you write a new chapter in your fairytale. So excited for you! xoxo

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  36. "In the end, we only regret the chances we didn’t take, relationships we were afraid to have, and the decisions we waited too long to make." Do your thing girl!!!

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  37. Congrats on your move to Denver! It'll be a huge change from Orlando, but I think you'll love it here!

    Annica
    www.lifemodifier.com

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  38. So awesome!! I was hoping this is where you'd go!

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  39. Love this! Congrats on the move to Denver!!

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  40. So excited to see this! When your head tells you to do something, just freaking do it!
    Ashley

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  41. Love the outfit, love the post! xoxo, ganeeban

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  42. I am so happy for you. We have to be the masters of our destiny and it sounds like you are chasing yours down and grabbing it by the reigns. Congratulations and best of luck to you. I will so make a blate when I go to Denver next year!

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  43. I've been waiting for this announcement...so excited for you. I have a good feeling that this is going to be a huge, wonderful, thrilling move for you. Big things are happening, dear. Can't wait to watch as it all unfolds! Cheers to you!

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  44. There is a yarn store in Longmont that I am dying to go too. If I make it, I'll let you know haha. Seriously though I think you'll love the new adventure. Life definitely doesn't always end up like you'd expect, and I can vouch for that in way more ways than one. I think it works out the way it's supposed to though, because each new door opens up something that will lead you to something even better.

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  45. Welcome to Denver! I think you'll love living here!! It's definitely different than Florida, and the seasons might be a bit of a challenge the first year, but it is truly a wonderful place to live. Best of luck!

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  46. Girl!!! I am PUMPED for this! So exciting for you and some things are just absolutely 100% worth taking a risk for! You will rock Denver!

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  47. I knew you were going to move to Denver! YAY SEASONS!

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  48. ahhhhh YAY!!!!! I am so excited for you!!!! I had a feeling that is what was happening!!!
    xo

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  49. some things are so worth the risk. take it from me ;) sydney to kentucky wasn't easy, and its not the fairytale i imagined when i was a kidlet, but here i am, happier than i ever thought i could be. good luck to you xo

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  50. So exciting! You go and get your bear Whitney!!

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  51. Colorado is happy to have you! Fairytales do exist and I'm glad you've continue to create your own. p.s. It's really effing cold here.

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  52. I can't wait to read about all your adventures in Colo!!! I loved living in the West and it will be so awesome to see how you enjoy it.

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  53. OMG! I am just so happy for you! This is YOUR fairytale, not all fairytales (true fairytales) are easy, they are hard work, relationships are hard work. But I am so glad you are taking this leap into a new book. ♥♥

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  54. Eeeee yaya!! Congrats to you, friend! Can't wait to see the rest of your fairytale unfold!

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  55. I had a huge feeling with the big changes post that this was coming. Congratulations!!! Colorado sounds amazing ( I have friends in Denver), And I'm totally jealous!

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  56. I am so so excited for you even though it's cold as balls in Colorado!!! Lol. Follow your heart and we'll follow along!! ^_^

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  57. Good luck! For what it's worth, my bf left NYC where he was born and raised to move to tallahassee and be with me and I think it's all worked out really well (he for his learners permit last month! Lol)! Life is all about taking chances and not looking back with regret so I am so excited for you and what the future holds!!! & can't wait to hear all about it of course!

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  58. I had a feeling your big changes were going to take you to Colorado. And fairytales are absolutely real. Unfortunately, they do come without mice who do your chores for you... that'd be a nice addition. But they are most definitely real, my friend.

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  59. Yay! I have been reading for a long time but I never comment (creeper alert, sorry) but I am so excited for you. As a Denver resident myself I know you will love it here :D

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  60. YAY Denver! Life is all about taking changes, and that's exactly what you're doing, ROCK IT.

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  61. I'll be making a HUGE (for me) move in October and I'm equally scared, excited, nervous, and happy about it too.

    I can't wait to hear about your Denver adventures and I'm happy that your fairy tale, flaws and all, is coming into its own. xo

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  62. I had a feeling this move was coming. How exciting!

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  63. I'm so excited and happy for you. I can't wait to follow along on this new journey.

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  64. oh my god oh my god!! :)
    you'll be in the same town as me, and i can't wait :)
    Wish you and bear nothing but happiness!

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  65. I'm going to tell you what I'd say to any of my girl friends - just be smart. And safe.

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  66. Omg did you know Denver is cold? They have this thing called Winter it's so weird have you heard? Also, snow. It's a foreign concept I'm not sure if you know what that is either.

    GET YOUR BUTT HERE RIGHT MEOW. Can't wait to frolic and drink and frolic and drink some more. Weeeeeee.

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  67. Beautiful words, Whitney. This may be one of my favorite posts from you. Very inspiring.. Thank you so much for sharing.

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  68. We all make out own fairy tales and you are living yours. Get ready for snow and cold!

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  69. Yaaaaaay! I was right! Lovebug I am BEYOND excited for you and your new adventures. There is absolutely nothing in this world like following your heart and chasing your dreams. XO!

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  70. I'm excited for you and can't wait to see where this takes you :) I also can't wait to read about your experience with SNOW! Lol

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  71. I'm so excited for you and hope that your fairy tale has a VERY happy ever after.

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  72. Wishing you all the best as you being this new chapter; I hope Colorado treats you well!

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  73. Bah! I knew it! Yay! This is SO exciting! Congrats!

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  74. I LOVE THIS!! Congrats girlie! Colorado is amazing...there is nothing better than living out west! I would go back in a second! I am so happy for you following your heart and living your fairytale! :)

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  75. Congrats girl! Wishing you all the best out there! xo

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  76. Great perspective and absolutely so true! We're in the way of our own potential story! Good luck as you puruse your fairytale!

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  77. I was hoping this was what was going on!! I'm so happy for you and Bear and little Sir!! I know this fairy tale will have a happy ending. :)

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  78. Congrats! Change is a most excellent adventure!

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  79. I actually JUST moved to Denver three weeks ago! My husband and I are from New England and we were looking for some adventure before settling down... so I applied to grad school out here, got into a great program, and we're enjoying the new world around us :) Congrats on the upcoming move! Denver is wonderful and you will love it :)

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  80. So happy and so excited for you :) I never thought I would be where I am but anything in the name of love right?

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  81. So happy for you that you're following your heart! Buttttt... 2 things... 1 we have to meet for drinks before you leave and 2 you may wonder what the f*ck you decided to do once that looooong winter sets in ;-)

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  82. How we see a relationship in our head and how it is can be so very different

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  83. Oooo Whit it sounds like some really new and interesting times are ahead for you! Very exciting and I look forward to reading about it as it unfolds.

    I completely 100% agree with you that we all have this idea of where we want ourselves to end up and it's so sad - because we could end up missing so many opportunities that come or way. Well done for being brave and open minded xxxx

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  84. I KNEW IT!! Well at least my gut knew it lol so happy for you!!!!

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  85. You deserve all the happiness in the world. It gives me hope that i might get to live my fairytale someday too. <3

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  86. Go, W.E. Go. You'll never regret taking a chance. Bravery is the good stuff.

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  87. Woo hoo!!! So excited for you! Way to be brave and fight for what you want. However it turns out, Im sure it will be an amazing experience and you will learn a lot! The only regrets in life are the risk we don't take...right? ;)

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  88. When I was going through my divorce I kept thinking my fairy tale was over, but in reality it was just beginning. Sometimes our fairy tales change as we grow up and that's definitely okay.

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  89. Wow...just wow... sweet bear and Whitney Ellen. Tears in my eyes... I am so happy for both of you.... Bev

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  90. Exciting! Can't wait to continue following you on your adventures.

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  91. Your writing is awesome, Whitney. I feel like I can relate to you so much, in writing style, sass and wit, and also in life. You are so en pointe in this whole fairytale-storm analogy, and I love how you juxtaposed that so perfectly to love and relationships and life. Best of luck to you on your new journey...I'm so excited to be a new follower and reader and to connect with you more!

    lovelovelove,
    Erica
    cominguprosestheblog.com

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  92. So happy for you and I love the way you wrote it!

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  93. Love the way you write :)
    Great look :)

    http://dreamland1234.blogspot.com/

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